Love in a Healthy Relationship

Specialness and co-dependency are not true love 💗 Here's how to remove the drama from your relationships:

People project their needs and expectations onto others, and their love is purely conditional, leading to repeated cycles of suffering and drama. What they're really saying is: I love you only if you meet my expectations and behave the way I want you to. But this is not true love.
Most of these coping mechanisms stem from old, unhealed wounds - and they can be acknowledged, addressed, and transformed. 

Special relationships are characterized by judgment, projection, fear, and a need for external validation; whereas healthy relationships are grounded in consideration, respect, forgiveness, love, and a shared purpose.

💗 SPECIAL Relationships are:

Ego-driven: Special relationships are rooted in the ego's desire for specialness, exclusivity, and the belief that another person can fulfill needs that only Divine Source can truly meet. It is the ego that craves to feel 'special' and seeks specialness, yet such behavior never provides a stable foundation for genuine, lasting love. 

Judgment and Fear: They are characterized by co-dependency, possessiveness, judgment, criticism, and fear, often leading to conflict and pain.

Seeking External Validation: Special relationships rely on external factors like physical appearance, personality traits, status symbols, or achievements for validation and self-esteem. The ego substitutes these for true love, in an effort to conceal the absence of inner alignment with the heart.

Intention to Control: There's often an underlying desire to control or manipulate the other person to fulfill one's own needs and expectations. This need for control begins to fade only after one has healed and learned to rest securely in self-love, self-worth, and inner trust.
 
Note: Healing and change are possible in all of these areas. Many of these coping mechanisms are rooted in past wounds, but with awareness and care, they can be understood and released.

 
💗 HEALTHY Relationships are:

Spirit-led: Healthy relationships are grounded in a shared Divine Consciousness, which helps both partners heal the relationship by removing fear, projection, and judgment.

Forgiveness and Love: Healthy relationships are based on respect, consideration, forgiveness, and the recognition of the inherent divinity in the other person and in oneself.

Shared Purpose: Sacred relationships share a common purpose: healing, mutual support, appreciation, and returning to the Divine Source in awareness - transcending egoic needs and desires.

Freedom and Trust: In a healthy relationship, there is freedom from judgment, projection, and control, along with trust in the other person’s inherent goodness and the guidance of Divine Spirit.

Not Necessarily Romantic: Healthy relationships can be romantic, but they can also take the form of friendships, family bonds, or even connections with strangers - as long as the intention is to heal and return to Oneness.

Transformation from Special to Sacred: Meeting together in the consciousness of each other’s Divine Self can transform any relationship - even those initially based on egoistic reasons - by removing fear, projection, and judgment.

This transformation requires a willingness to let go of the ego’s need for control and to see the other person as they truly are: a beautiful Soul and a reflection of Divine Source’s love.

The process may involve discomfort and challenges, as the ego resists releasing its attachments and control. But the ultimate result is healthy relationships filled with serenity, freedom, peace, and unconditional, lasting love.

I am here to support you on this path.

With Love, Jeanne
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